Sometimes, you have to let the Wookiee win. A lesson in choosing your battles. #parentlikeaGeek

“I suggest a new strategy R2, let the Wookiee win.”

C-3PO  Star Wars

Sometimes you have to let the Wookiee win. Some battles aren’t worth fighting. Whether you are a teacher in a classroom or a parent at home sometimes you have to let go.  My kitchen has a window into the living room. If my oldest daughter walked passed a certain point in the kitchen, she could not turn around and walk back out.  She would climb through the window into the living room. For some reason, I can’t explain it drove me batty. I would beg. She would still go through the window. I would praise. She would still go through the window. I would yell. She would still climb through the window.

I eventually had to ask myself… what harm is it doing that she climbed through the window? Was she hurting herself? Was she hurting someone else? Was she destroying the house? NO…. the only person that was really bothered by the behavior was me.

Teachers  have to do the same with their kids in their classes. Does it really matter if they are standing while you teach? Does it bother other students or does it just bother me? Set some limits. Stop and reflect on what you really want that student (Wookiee) to do or not while they are in your room. Write down the most important things. Don’t let them hurt themselves. Don’t let them hurt someone else. But learn to let some things go. 

Back to the window in the kitchen and my own little Wookiee. After I stopped loosing my you know what when she climbed through the window, she stopped climbing through the window. Kids will respond to get you to react; whether they have autism or they are typical. So focus on what’s important, let some things go. Sometimes, it’s ok to let the Wookiee win.


Addy and I in front of the Infamous Kitchen window.

Addy and I in front of the Infamous Kitchen window.


8 EASY Tips for Teachers of Students with #Autism


8 EASY Tips for Teachers of Students with #Autism

1.  Give short and simple directions. Don’t overspeak.  Put your back on    the chair and eyes on me.


  1. Tell what TO do, instead of what NOT to do. For example, instead of saying “Stop running!” say “Walk.”


  1. Understand that I sometimes focus better when doing something physical.  Allow me to have an item in my hands or an ‘active’ seating option.


  1. Let students work in short increments. Work for 10 min take a short sensory break. Then work some more.


  1. Recognize the child’s strengths and build from those strengths – tap into them.


  1. Advocate for, and utilize assistive technology. There are many tablet applications that are of significant benefit. Everything from skill practice, organization and note taking to creation/presentation.


  1. Communicate with parents on a regular basis. Let parents know about the successes as well as the struggles.


  1. A schedule and routine are very important. Visual schedules work well with most.