“I suggest a new strategy R2, let the Wookiee win.”
C-3PO Star Wars
Sometimes you have to let the Wookiee win. Some battles aren’t worth fighting. Whether you are a teacher in a classroom or a parent at home sometimes you have to let go. My kitchen has a window into the living room. If my oldest daughter walked passed a certain point in the kitchen, she could not turn around and walk back out. She would climb through the window into the living room. For some reason, I can’t explain it drove me batty. I would beg. She would still go through the window. I would praise. She would still go through the window. I would yell. She would still climb through the window.
I eventually had to ask myself… what harm is it doing that she climbed through the window? Was she hurting herself? Was she hurting someone else? Was she destroying the house? NO…. the only person that was really bothered by the behavior was me.
Teachers have to do the same with their kids in their classes. Does it really matter if they are standing while you teach? Does it bother other students or does it just bother me? Set some limits. Stop and reflect on what you really want that student (Wookiee) to do or not while they are in your room. Write down the most important things. Don’t let them hurt themselves. Don’t let them hurt someone else. But learn to let some things go.
Back to the window in the kitchen and my own little Wookiee. After I stopped loosing my you know what when she climbed through the window, she stopped climbing through the window. Kids will respond to get you to react; whether they have autism or they are typical. So focus on what’s important, let some things go. Sometimes, it’s ok to let the Wookiee win.