Yeah, so the beanbag exploded…another story for another day.
If you’ve met one person with autism, then you have met one person with autism. Meaning that everyone with autism is different. Autism is a spectrum disorder. People fall in different places on the spectrum. They range from friends who are high functioning to lower functioning. Some friends are severe some are less severe.
Parenting a child with autism is kind of the same. I say that if you’ve met one autism parent, then you have met one autism parent. All of us cope with autism in our own ways.
I read about parents who say their child’s autism is a gift and they love them that way. I used to feel bad when I read stuff like that because I don’t feel that way. My kids autism isn’t a gift. It makes things harder for them. I see it in their faces when the words don’t come out. I hear it in their screams when something is off and they can’t make it right. Autism isn’t all sunshine and roses in our house. It’s loud, messy, and sometimes it just plain sucks.
We see autism as something that makes their lives harder. Autism makes us jump up and count heads if we hear a siren in the night. Both of our kids have wandered off in the night. Autism is hard for us. It is something that we fight to overcome every day.
If you are new to autism don’t feel bad if you don’t see autism as a wonderful gift. Every autism parent copes with it differently. There is no right way or wrong way. What matters is that you are persistent, consistent, and positive. What matters is that you remember that your situation is unique to you and you alone. Don’t compare your behind the scenes with someone else’s highlight reel. Remember if you’ve met one parent with autism, you’ve met one! We are all different. Keep up the good work. Cut yourself some slack.
Toby- Wan Kenobi @JediPadMaster