Everyone has that drawer in their house. You know the one. You put important things in there. Things you may need later and don’t want to lose. That drawer probably looks like this…
Special Needs Parents have a drawer too…
“How do you all do it?”
Sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we cry. We get upset. We are mad at the world. Sometimes we sit and listen to Florence and the Machine and stare off into space from our hammock. Sometimes when one of us down, the other always has a brave face and a smile. That way others think all is well.
Sometimes we put our problems we don’t want to deal with in “the drawer.’ It’s pretty crowded too. Global warming is in there. All of our medical debt and student loan debt is in there too. Addison’s upcoming appointment to be fitted for her wheelchair… that’s in “the drawer.” Addison’s surgery to break and reset both her legs if her physical therapy doesn’t work…. WAY in the back of “the drawer.” Leah’s back and forth battle with lyme disease and all of the neurological issues it has caused…. throw it in the drawer.
It’s great to be able to put things in the drawer. We are able to get along and function because of that drawer. Here’s another secret. We don’t leave things in the drawer. That would be unhealthy and irresponsible. The secret of the drawer is knowing when to take things out of it. If you try and deal with every thing thats in “the drawer” all at once, you will get overwhelmed and it will break you mentally, emotionally, and physically. You tackle the drawer the same way you eat an elephant… one bite at a time. (The elephant eating is a metaphor. I don’t condone eating elephants. I love Dumbo and support all Pachyderms) We tackle the items in the drawer, when they need to be dealt with. Word of advice. If you know a special needs parent and you know about some items that could be in their drawer. Don’t go into the drawer and pull out the problem they put in there. Let them deal with the problem in the drawer on their own terms. If you make them deal with it too soon. You are messing with number one secret that explains “How We Do It!”
We hope that we never have to deal with the issues in the drawer. We hope that things will get better and that the drawer will slowly empty on its own. Let me show you. We hope that Addison’s Physical Therapy fixes the issues with her legs so we don’t have to have surgery. We hope that Leah’s medicine keeps working and she stays healthy. So now that you know the secrets of how we do it, share it. Share this with a friend who may need an evening of sappy music and hammock time. Share it with a friend who may not know that they have “the drawer” to use. Share it with a friend who may need a little hope.
Thanks for reading
Toby Price @JediPadMaster #MTFBWY #manvsautism