I have been rethinking my whole theory on “The Drawer.” “The Drawer” is a way I deal with all of the stuff that happens everyday. The secret of the drawer was knowing when to take things out of it. If you try and deal with everything that’s in “the drawer” all at once, you would get overwhelmed. It would break you mentally, emotionally, and physically. You would tackle the drawer the same way you would eat an elephant… one bite at a time.
After I wrote that some good friends told me, “Dude, that’s not healthy. If you keep putting stuff in that drawer and rarely clean it out, the drawer will overflow spilling out everywhere.
Over the last year, my drawer has started to overflow. My wife is still recovering from Lyme Disease, then had to have another surgery that didn’t go as planned. My two oldest kids are growing up. Their hormones are making things difficult. Autism & Hormones make things very challenging. Challenging meaning newer different more intense, sometimes violent, meltdowns. All three kids used to go to the school where I work. This year, the oldest two have moved over to the *High School. AW and the Dude moving to High School terrifies me and is buried DEEP DEEP DEEP in my drawer. Our house is on Mississippi red clay and the foundation has shifted causing multiple problems in our house with the doors and plumbing. My minivan needs yet another alternator, and only starts when the moon is sitting right in the sky. I got really sick this summer and had my gallbladder removed. The kids medical issues, my wife’s surgery and my own have caused medical bills to pile up BAD. There is so much in my drawer, that the tiniest things can make feel terrible. A long time ago the only thing that could make me angry was when my socks would get wet. Now, my iphone won’t charge and it makes me so upset I want to take a nap.
I need to change fast. But how? **Oprah isn’t going to show up and fix all my problems. I can’t just dump my drawer out everywhere daily and roll around in all my problems. The solution? I can change what I put in “the drawer.” Yes, I have some pretty dark things to worry about floating around in my drawer, but those aren’t the only things in my life.
“ At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe me there is much more good than bad.” – Lemony Snicket
I think the trick is to look around and think about the good things more than the bad. Fill up your brain or “drawers” with what is going right or well in your life. I have a wonderful, creative, and strong family. I have a home. It’s mine. It has everything we need in it. I have a car that will get me to and from work each day. I have an AMAZING JOB! This school year is off to a stellar start! The kids really enjoy high school. I GET TO spend my free time with my lovely wife reading books and working puzzles. There really is so much more good than bad. This theory doesn’t make the bad stuff go away, but I want to start using the bad stuff as a reminder that I am stronger than my problems. I can use what I have persevered through to help others and I have a pretty awesome life. If I can train my brain to focus on the good more than the bad. What is going wrong in my life won’t be able to take up so much space in those drawers anymore. It will be overshadowed by the awesomeness of what is going right.
*AW and The Dude at High School still terrifies me. However, we are blessed with awesome teachers and aides.
** Oprah doesn’t have to fix my problems but if she wanted to let me hold like 10K I wouldn’t say no.